Monday, February 09, 2009

Dear Noah......last week we got into it......

I am not going to get into all the details here....the end result is the most important.  You said many hurtful things to me on that day as you were upset .....and I explained to you how all those things made me feel...which I must say they did upset me even though I tried not to allow that to happen.  BUT in the end you wrote out a personal message to me on your doodle pad....all by yourself....without any prompting by me.....

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It read:

I'm sorry Mom. Those things I said was expressions, except for:  I love you, I want to do homeschool, and I want to live with you. (and then there is a sad smiley face with tears coming down) P1150362sadsmiley

I was impressed you felt bad enough to write me a note and by all the things you said in the note and even showing the SAD emotion and tears on the smiley face including scrunched up eyebrows.....again, all without any prompting by me.

Needless to say I have not felt too well since....physically...I either have a bug of some sort or it is just stress or a combination.   Today I thought I was feeling better, but anything I eat causes problems.  SO.....anyway......

I love you a lot  Noah.....

Mommy

XOXOXO



UPDATE....just so everyone knows......I did not say anything nasty to Noah......this was something over the cat. I had gotten upset about the cat doing something...and the things I said then TO THE CAT......and about the cat upset Noah...and he then lashed out saying hurtful things to me. Extremely hurtful.....I was surprised as he has not done things like that before.....but I am sure his hormones are beginning to get to that point where they will also begin to possibly interfere with how he might act.

6 comments:

kristi said...

I am so sorry. TC says ugly things to me too.He calls me a bitch a lot. I get onto him though.

Jack and Joann said...

I wish you and Noah sunshine, love and joy and peace. Remember the good times and forget the bad and just go on. Joann

Melissa said...

It's good Noah wrote you the note. I know a few years back he probably wouldn't have been able to write a note to you like that you know? So, I guess even though you fought, you can see a big improvement in his ability to recognize feelings and how they made you feel.

It must be something in the air, because on Sunday Audrey and I got into it big time. The end result very similar, she said some very hateful things, I got upset she got upset and then she apologized.

I hope you get to feeling better. Love you guys!

Patty said...

See, all the hard work you have gone through teaching him and showing him right from wrong, what is acceptable and what isn't, is paying off. That is a very sweet note he wrote. It's a shame you can't keep it forever. Well I guess you can, since you took a photo of it. I'm very impressed with his actions and writing you the note to tell you he's sorry. Love you both. Hope you get to feeling better soon.

TimsMomMom said...

It's so hard when they lose it and say those horrible things to us. I think we "special" moms feel your frustration and your pain but you were somehow able to get through it and you know what? Noah did the most amazing thing, he was able to say I'm sorry and mean it. That is so huge for him. I know it doesn't take away the hurt but we both know he didn't mean what he said and that he lost it and you probably lost it too! I get so mad at myself when I say things I shouldn't to Timmy but he pushes me to places I didn't know existed inside of me.Timmy has said the meanest things to me and he is only 7, I can only imagine what I am in for as he grows older. Let's hope that the therapy and the love teach our children how to cope with what's missing inside so they don't lash out at those closest to them (MOM). We need to forgive ourselves and each other. We need to rejoice over the apology and the fact that he was able to even write that to you, way to go Noah!

Betsy said...

It is a full moon, you know!

No, seriously...all kidding aside...there's nothing more forgiving than a mother's heart...especially when there's a heartfelt, self initiated apology.
It's great that he put his thoughts into words, even the emotion! Great!

Hope you feel better soon!