tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7121474.post4246585729813641031..comments2023-04-25T13:49:57.904-04:00Comments on Dear Noah: Dear Liam TurleyMelindahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17598928046422992165noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7121474.post-33894570895107127662007-02-10T20:40:00.000-05:002007-02-10T20:40:00.000-05:00For those of us who read your blog regularly, no e...For those of us who read your blog regularly, no explanation on your part was needed. <BR/><BR/>You shouldn't dignify this simpleton with an acknowledgment. <BR/><BR/>Just keep on truckin'.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7121474.post-65016266337562961952007-02-08T23:29:00.000-05:002007-02-08T23:29:00.000-05:00nq: don't apologize for the length of your commen...nq: don't apologize for the length of your comment! thanks for coming by and commenting too! <BR/><BR/>YES....hitting only works via fear.....and that is not good. With AUTISTIC children especially it does not work.....not that it does with anyone....but Noah responds better to gentle soothing talking....not getting angry...etc. As we all would. :)Melindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17598928046422992165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7121474.post-91644587203023218972007-02-08T22:36:00.000-05:002007-02-08T22:36:00.000-05:00it's such a hard line- i've seen a lot of kids in ...it's such a hard line- i've seen a lot of kids in terrible abuse situations, but the thing i've learned from it is that each kid is different, each situation is different, and each parent is different. that never justifies abusing a child, but it definitely rules out blanketing all negative contact as full-on abuse. to put it another way, i spent years training horses, who have the attention span and learning capabilities of two to three year old humans. and i've made my mistakes, although there are no laws there to punish me for slapping a horse with the end of his lead. i've also accidentally hit myself w/ the lead, and it hurts like hell. the horses reaction? all different, yes, but all along the lines of fear of me. now, you don't get to teach anyone anything when they're afraid of you- learning is based on trust- and i think you of all parents understand that. autistic children especially seem to need that trust, from my very limited contact.<BR/>i suppose the horse thing is a different example, because i have only once hit a horse who wasn't threatening me directly, and they can be too big and too unaware of themselves sometimes. but if that's not abuse, patting a child via a diaper is certainly a simple learning experience for both of you. and we all need to "get our feet wet" somehow...<BR/>you clearly love and are there for noah more than most of the parents i work with love and are there for their kids, and some of them are great parents. (which makes you an excelent parent) <BR/>hopefully once Turly gets some experience in the "field" he'll understand that everyone makes mistakes, and some, like yours, are microscopic compared to most.<BR/>sorry this is so long...nqhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13886219615717064601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7121474.post-58676574223808550362007-02-07T12:12:00.000-05:002007-02-07T12:12:00.000-05:00In response: to Liam Turkey:
Pretty obvious that ...In response: to Liam Turkey:<br /><br />Pretty obvious that the Turkey part of the name is appropriate. one can attempt to "learn" from classwork and books, BUT the real key is actual life. Being Noah's father I can and WILL attest that Noah has never in his life been abused, on the contrary, He is the most loved, most charished, and most delightful child one can imagine. <br /><br />Turkey, you may take your soapbox, of "liberal, social injustice" and attempt to help those who are in REAL need, those who are abandonded, those who's parents ARE proven to be unfit. BUT to attack Melinda (and myself for that matter) is irresponsible, DO YOUR home work (which we know social workers hardly ever do) and you will understand that.<br />Keith (Noah's daddy)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com